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Dedicated to Marshall Rosenberg, Barnett Pearce and Ramon Panikkar, three of my teachers, and to the creative team-builders and peacemakers in every culture and faith. Where there is a clash of wills, may we bring the light of new understanding and a meeting of hearts.
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Table of Contents
Making a Shared Life: The Seven Challenges Communication Skills Workbook
| Section | Focus | Page |
|---|---|---|
| INTRODUCTION | SEEING NEW POSSIBILITIES, WAKING UP TO CONSCIOUS CONVERSATIONS | INTRO-1 |
| CHALLENGE ONE: LISTENING WITH THE HEART AND FIVE EARS | LISTENING MORE CAREFULLY & RESPONSIVELY, UNDERSTANDING MORE DEEPLY | 1-1 |
| CHALLENGE TWO: ADDING INTENT & CONSENT TO YOUR CONVERSATIONS | EXPLAINING OUR CONVERSATIONAL INTENT AND INVITING CONSENT | 2-1 |
| CHALLENGE THREE: INCREASING CLARITY OF SELF-EXPRESSION | EXPRESSING OURSELVES MORE CLEARLY, CREATIVELY, & COMPLETELY WITH THE FIVE “I-MESSAGES” | 3-1 |
| CHALLENGE FOUR: TRANSFORMING COMPLAINTS INTO POSITIVE REQUESTS | TRANSLATING COMPLAINTS AND/OR CRITICISMS INTO REQUESTS LINKED TO VISIONS OF SUCCESS | 4-1 |
| CHALLENGE FIVE: CREATIVE QUESTIONING | ASKING QUESTIONS MORE CONSCIOUSLY, “OPEN-ENDED-LY” AND CREATIVELY | 5-1 |
| CHALLENGE SIX: EXPLORING THE TREE OF GRATITUDE | STRENGTHEN ALL OUR RELATIONSHIPS BY EXPRESSING MORE GRATITUDE, APPRECIATION, ENCOURAGEMENT, AND DELIGHT | 6-1 |
| CHALLENGE SEVEN: EMBRACING CONTINUOUS LEARNING | LIVING IN “CONTINUOUS-LEARNING” MODE: MAKING MORE CONSCIOUS / MORE CREATIVE COMMUNICATION A CENTRAL PART OF OUR LIVES | 7-1 |
| CHAPTER EIGHT: WIDENING CIRCLES OF MUTUAL MENTORING & DEDICATED FRIENDSHIPS | DEVELOPING YOUR LEARNING SUPPORT NETWORK WITH TEAMS OF TWO AND CIRCLES OF SIX | 8-1 |
The Loom of Emergence
We weave together words to make sentences.
We weave together sentences and turns to make conversations.
We weave together conversations and actions to make relationships.
We weave together relationships to make families and communities.
We weave together communities to make a shared world.